Kids are heading to college this month, many for the first time. One freshman made the difficult choice to come out to his roommate beforehand, rather than face an awkward conversation in the dorms.
“Probably should have told you this before signing the lease, but I’m gay/bi/still figuring it out,” Redditor nsyncbibibi texted his future roomie. “I know you probably don’t care, but I thought I’d let ya know.”
Would his roommate be cool with the news? Would he freak out—or even, perhaps, request a transfer?
None of the above, it turns out.
“Thanks for telling me that, man, I really appreciate your courage and the fact that you feel comfortable enough to tell me,” he replied. “I think it’s awesome that you’re figuring things out and it definitely won’t change anything between us.”
Then the other shoe dropped.
“Also thank you for opening this window because I’ve been stressing about telling you, but I’m bi myself, haha. So I guess we can just be a big ol’ bi/gay/figuring things out house lol. Thanks for telling me, man!”
Reactions on the Reddit thread ran the gamut from celebratory to cautionary.
“Don’t sex your roommate,” advised one poster. “Generally a bad idea because humans have feelings and they get complicated and you don’t want to live with an ex until your lease expires.”
Another was a bit more blunt.
“Please pay attention to the following public service announcement: DON’T FUCK YOUR ROOMMATES. This has been a public service announcement, thank you for your attention.”
One commenter actually had an even more unlikely situation.
“When I got my roommate assignment, I emailed her telling her to text me and look me up on Facebook,” wrote queenchemistry. “When she texted me, she mentioned being relieved to see on my FB that I was an ally because she has a girlfriend—and that’s when I came out to her. It feels SO blessed to have a roommate (and friend) to bond with over being queer! She’s given me some amazing advice and so much support, and I hope the same is true for you and your roommate next year!”