This Gay Man Swore He’d Never Let His Kids Go Through The Foster Care Nightmare He Did

"The one thing that we did know is that they needed love."

Rob Scheer just wanted to feel wanted when he went through the foster system as a child, so he’s now dedicating his life to making sure other foster kids know that there are people who care.

In an emotional video from Upworthy, Scheer shares the heartbreaking story of his childhood, and how it was his husband, Reece, who encouraged him to consider fostering in the states, instead of going through with their original plan to adopt overseas.

They decided to foster four children and soon began the fight to try to adopt them, despite constantly being told that they were unfit to be parents because they’re gay. This very issue just made headlines this week, after Alabama’s House advanced a bill that would allow faith-based adoption and foster care agencies to refuse service to same-sex families based on the agency’s religious beliefs.

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After being shocked that all four kids came to his home with their belongings in trash bags—a painful part of the process that he dealt with as a foster kid decades earlier–the father decided it was time to make a change.

Scheer created “Comfort Cases” to give to kids at local foster facilities, and so far, 25,000 have been donated since 2013.

Listen to Rob’s emotional story, and click here to learn more about how you can get involved with Comfort Cases to help make a difference in a child’s life.


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