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Help, I Just Walked In On My 15-Year-Old Daughter Having Sex With Her Girlfriend!

"Things are moving a little too fast for me."

A concerned father turned to LGBT redditors for advice after accidentally discovering his teen daughter in bed with her girlfriend.

"I’m the father of a 15-year-old girl who recently came out as gay to me and the rest of her family," wrote Geertur on reddit LGBT. "It was pretty shocking to say the least, but we all happily accept her as she is and will support her through and through."

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Still, like any dad, he's a little freaked out about his kid becoming a sexual being. As a straight man, he admits he's a little more at sea: "Despite my love and support towards my daughter, things are moving a little too fast for me."

Geertur says his daughter told him last month she was dating a female friend. "The biggest surprise came last week, though, when I caught my daughter and this friend of hers having sex on her bed."

She didn't think anyone would be home, but he dropped by unexpectedly to pick up something he'd forgotten. He decided to pop in to let her know he was in the house. "I was the one who was spooked, though, when I saw my little girl behaving in such a sexual way towards another person" he recalled. "I’m not angry, but I’m not happy either. I feel like my baby girl’s innocence is stripped."

Geertur admits his relationship with his child has been "real awkward" since the incident. "We have barely spoken. I have no clue how I can make this a more comfortable situation not only for my daughter, but for myself."

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He turned LGBT redditors for advice.

"What should I say when I decide to sit down and discuss this issue with her? Do I discuss the birds and the bees with her? I’m a straight male, so I have no knowledge whatsoever on girl-on-girl. All answers and help would be greatly appreciated!"

Commenters were quick to praise the dad for being accepting of his daughter's sexuality, but suggested it was a little late for the birds-and-the-bees talk. Some also urged him to give her a little more credit.

"Unfortunately for you, when and how your daughter deals with her 'innocence' isn't something you are arbiter of," wrote one user. "A part of growing up in the world is figuring out what one likes and what one doesn't... Furthermore, don't worry about her innocence anymore for being a girl than you would were she a dude."

"Remind your child about consent," another suggested. "Remind them that sex is an big emotional deal. It's something that intrinsically connects people to other people and that, particularly, for the first time, it can be emotionally intense. Picking your sexual partners carefully is really important. Taking it slow is important."

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Many users suggested that before sitting down with his daughter, Geertur read up on LGBT history and safe sex practices. Some urged him to reassure his daughter ASAP that he's not upset over the incident, while others suggested joining PFLAG and getting her in for an STD screening.

By and large, though, Geertur was praised for "being supportive, even if you don't quite know how to approach things 100%," as one user wrote, and for focusing more on having a sexually active teen in the house rather than her sexuality in particular.

"This sounds like you would be nervous and uncomfortable if you had found her having sex with a guy, i.e. your concerns don't seem homophobic at all which is awesome. You sound like an awesome dad."

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