An 88-year-old grandmother was having none of her son’s casual homophobic and transphobic rhetoric and shut him down with a beautiful and simple response. The story, shared by the woman’s grandchild, has gone viral.
Twitter user @MinovskyArticle said their father was complaining that “LGBTQIA+ identities were getting too confusing to keep up with.”
That’s when grandma jumped in to show her son that he wasn’t done learning important lessons from her.
“The way things are now is better than when people had to hide away or killed themselves because nobody understood who they were. Respect costs you nothing,” she told him.
Dad ranted about how LGBTQIA+ identities were getting too confusing to keep up with, my 88 year old grandma shut him down. “The way things are now is better than when people had to hide away or killed themselves because nobody understood who they were. Respect costs you nothing.”
— Minovsky (@MinovskyArticle) May 6, 2018
Some had a hard time believing the story, suggesting a woman born some 40 years or so before the Stonewall Uprising couldn’t possibly hold such a progressive opinion as, “LGBT people aren’t hurting you, mind your business.”
The grandchild explained that while they wouldn’t go so far as to call their grandmother “woke,” she has “bi and trans grandkids, and has been open minded and willing to learn if it means her family is happy. That’s all any of us can really ask for.”
To the “I guess woke grandmas are a thing we’re making up now” quote tweeters. I wouldn’t describe my grandma as “woke”, but she’s got bi and trans grandkids, and has been open minded and willing to learn if it means her family is happy. That’s all any of us can really ask for.
— Minovsky (@MinovskyArticle) May 7, 2018
Others helped dispel the doubts of progressively minded old folks by sharing their own stories of having LGBT-affirming grandparents.
My 98 year old Roman Catholic Italian grandmother is exactly the same. It’s not made up. When I came out to her all she cared about was whether I’m happy.
— Richard Liantonio (@R_Liantonio) May 7, 2018
My grandma was a staunch supporter of the civil rights movement and the movement for LGBTQIA+ rights. She celebrated gay marriage becoming law in 2015. She didn’t much like it when I dyed my hair crazy colors though.
— Katie Rife (@FutureSchlock) May 7, 2018
This. My mom is 74 and one of the biggest advocates for my 11 y.o. kid (who is still figuring their gender identity out for themselves). She reads, asks questions, talks to people. Loving someone enough to do that work isn't exclusive to younger generations.
— shelliejelly (@shelliejelly) May 7, 2018
common experience when coming out to peeps, they relate having previously met a trans person. My granddad did this when I came out – with a story from 1920's.
— TheElginWorks (@AnnieTheObscure) May 7, 2018
When I came out, my nana was the first person to open her arms to me. She went out of her way to research and learn more about my sexuality because it was unfamiliar to her. I'm so, so grateful for her.
— Dial Up 💀 (@JadeAlys93) May 7, 2018
When I came out as bi 15 years ago, my Grandpap, staunchly religious Catholic, told me to bring my boyfriend over for dinner so he & Grandma could meet him. He wouldn't tolerate anyone in the family shitting on me.
Woke-ish grandfolks exist. I'm glad yours is supportive of you!
— Meteu Wuliechsin 🏳️🌈🇺🇸 (@MeteuWuliechsin) May 7, 2018
My grandmother hosted my dad’s wedding to his husband at her apartment and cried happy tears at the wedding! Woke grandmas indeed.
— LaurieU (@floobish) May 7, 2018
My grandma is 91 and her reaction to my cousin marrying another man was "Is he cute?"
— Thomas Clinch (@thommytsunami) May 7, 2018
My grandma was the same at 93. Of course woke grandmas are real. Who do they think taught us compassion? Sounds like they needed one 🤷🏻♀️
— Jessica Cale 🏴 (@JessicaCale) May 7, 2018
Let’s hear it for all the open minded grandparents of the world who show acceptance knows no age limit.