This Guy Invited People to His “BBQ Not N Orgy” on Grindr—and It Was Adorable

The crowd was "super sweet, really engaging, [and] actually a really diverse group of people," said one of the attendees.

One friendly North Carolina man became a viral Internet sensation when he posted ads inviting locals to his fifth-annual Fourth of July barbecue on a gay dating app.

Chris Bowman, 61, of Apex, N.C., made headlines after a screenshot of his invitation to the “BBQ not n ORGY” on Grindr was posted to Tumblr. In his ad, Bowman, who identifies as bisexual, announced that the party was “open to all… men, women, gay, bi, str8, trans, doesn’t matter to me.”

Naturally, Twitter had a field day, with users from all over the world wishing they could attend the festivities. And, as it turns out, the party was just as welcoming and fun as advertised. Matthew Setzer, a 23-year-old who lives in the same town as Bowman, told Buzzfeed News that he received a personal invitation to the shindig on Grindr. After some light background-checking for safety, Setzer decided to go with a friend.

“Everyone was super sweet, really engaging, and it was actually a really diverse group of people,” he said. “Like, as the barbecue went on, there were multiple languages being spoken, and we had a great conversation with this one couple about the North Carolina Museum of Art, and the Met exhibits.”

Bowman told Buzzfeed that he holds the annual barbecue as a way of giving back. He’s a recovering alcoholic, he shared, and hasn’t spoke to his children in years.

“I’ve been sober for 8 and a half years now,” he said, “and I just kind of feel the need, instead of being the asshole that I was, to be a softer, kinder, gentler, let’s-get-together kinda guy.”

And Setzer confirmed that Bowman is “an absolute sweetheart.” He also “absolutely” plans on returning to Bowman’s sixth-annual July 4 party next year.

As for the most important part of any barbecue—the food!—Setzer said there was plenty to go around. In fact, there were so many leftovers that Bowman was able to give some to his local fire department and homeless shelter.

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