Jameela Jamil Reflects After Coming Out: “My Timing Was Bad”

“Better out [of the closet] than in," the future "Legendary" judge told her Instagram followers.

The Good Place star Jameela Jamil might be steering clear of Twitter, but she isn’t totally abstaining from social media.

On Tuesday, the British actress spoke out about her coming-out tweets on Instagram, captioning a selfie with a deep-dive into her abrupt coming-out journey.

As NewNowNext reported last week, Jamil had opened up about her sexual orientation for the first time on Twitter after receiving flack for being cast as a judge on HBO’s Legendary, a forthcoming voguing competition series. Critics were concerned that Jamil had no institutional knowledge of the queer’s community rich house and ballroom scene—and that a queer ballroom veteran might have lost out on a major television gig by the 33-year-old NBC star being selected as judge instead.

“Last week was a perfect clusterfuck,” she began. “It was completely overwhelming.”

Jamil went on to reference a “misunderstanding” that was “left uncorrected for too long”—namely, her casting as one of Legendary’s lead judges, not the show’s host or emcee.

“… In a moment of distress and pain, personal things were blurted out because when you have a secret for decades and you’re traumatized, it always feels like it might just fucking burst out of you at any given moment, even the most inappropriate and unfortunate ones,” she continued. “I thankfully chose the most inappropriate and unfortunate time, maybe ever, for mine.”

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Well. Last week was a perfect clusterfuck. It was completely overwhelming. The sequence of events was insane, a misunderstanding was left uncorrected for too long, and misinformation spread too far, too fast, then my timing was bad, and in a moment of distress and pain, personal things were blurted out because when you have a secret for decades and you’re traumatized, it always feels like it might just fucking burst out of you at any given moment, even the most inappropriate and unfortunate ones. I thankfully chose the *most* inappropriate and unfortunate time, maybe ever, for mine. So now you don’t have to feel embarrassed about yours. I PEAKED FOR ALL OF US! But timing aside. Better out than in, and thank you for the thousands of messages of kindness and deeply personal letters from strangers and people I know, coming out to me privately. I don’t take it lightly and am happy for you that you felt ready to tell even one person. Do it whenever you feel the time is right, as long as you think you’ll be safe. Don’t feel bad for hiding it for as long as you need, and move at your own pace. But feel no shame about getting it off your chest and know you aren’t alone. There is a huge community of people who understand you, respect you and stand with you. On we go, hoping this week will be calmer than the last, and sending everyone the most love. Jam

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Regardless, Jamil, who has been in a relationship with singer-songwriter James Blake since 2015, said she feels “better out [of the closet] than in”:

… Thank you for the thousands of messages of kindness and deeply personal letters from strangers and people I know, coming out to me privately. I don’t take it lightly and am happy for you that you felt ready to tell even one person.

Do it whenever you feel the time is right, as long as you think you’ll be safe. Don’t feel bad for hiding it for as long as you need, and move at your own pace. But feel no shame about getting it off your chest and know you aren’t alone. There is a huge community of people who understand you, respect you and stand with you.

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