Model Elliott Sailors’ Ambitious Life Philosophy: “Say Yes” And “Just Dive In”

"Be 100% Authentic. Be 100% Responsible. You are strong enough."

This letter is part of our inaugural editorial series, “Letter to Myself,” in which we asked 40 remarkable queer people to write a note to their younger selves.

Dear Elliott,

How exciting—you just moved to NYC! I know it’s a scary time of uncertainty and everything seems big and new. I know you also think you have it all figured out and everything is under control, but you’ll actually have a much easier time the sooner you realize you don’t know as much as you think you do, and it’s okay to say you don’t know.

There are so many people around you who love you and can provide a tremendous amount of support if you allow yourself to be vulnerable.

You don’t believe this now, but I PROMISE your parents will love you no matter what! You don’t have to worry. Telling them the truth and letting them in allows them to be in your life for real. Even though you don’t agree on everything, that’s okay—they’re amazing!

As for the world…it’s going to get scarier, but you, my dear, are going to grow stronger. You will make a difference and you will do that by being an example of authenticity. Seek out those who have their own fears and insecurities, lift them up, and use your voice to say what needs to be said. You will be given so many opportunities to make a difference—say yes to them all. Don’t worry how to make it happen, just dive in, trust yourself, and remember why you started.

Be gentle with yourself and others. Remember, responsibility equals power. Be 100% Authentic. Be 100% Responsible. You are strong enough.

I love you,


Elliott Sailors is the creator of the #BeYouBeTrue movement.

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