We’re casually dating Looking, the new gay drama from HBO, and sharing our observations and war stories. Somebody has to.

A fourth date. Wow, I rarely make it this far with one man, let alone a whole cast of characters. Then again, I’m less forgiving with actual human beings. This week, the teddy bears have their picnic: Its the annual Folsom Street Fair and the gang plays dress-up. (I’ll give a fifth date to anyone who purchases leather on a whim.) Whatever these people do for a living, they get paid well.

Babyface

Though it’s a Sunday, Patrick is locked in the office with his blue-eyed babe of a Brit boss, Kevin (Russell Tovey), worrying over how to get their latest video game ready for a presentation in less than 24 hours. The two are hitting it off fairly well, but the flirtation has to remain innocent: Beyond the complicated work situation, it turns out that Kevin has a long-distance boyfriend. In fact, he’s at the airport angrily awaiting a pick-up, so Kevin has to bolt.

Left to his own devices, Patrick hits the streets with Agustin, Doris, and some random ginger we’ll probably never see again. The freedom is short-lived, however, as the need for a bathroom break drives the team back to workplace. This is where Patrick stops being boyfriend material: I’ll accept his contrived naiveté, his desperation, and even his determination to wear a leather vest without a shirt.But I will never, ever be okay with a guy starts a conversation with me while I’m taking a dump.

Boundaries, dude.

Babyface almost claws back from this misstep by taking the initiative to approach Richie at a crowded club and apologize for his racist bedroom banter. It also helps that he has the self-awareness to ask, “Should I just shut up and go away?” when the conversation seems like it’s dead in the water.

Beard

Agustin seems like he needs a great deal of therapy: He’s so obsessed with CJ the Friendly Sex Worker that he drags all of his friends to the Rentboy.com booth at Folsom, just so they can all watch them flirt inappropriately. Judging by the conversation,though, it’s unclear to everyone—including Ag—whether he wants to hire a pro or become one.

The only one with a good handle on the situation is CJ himself, who rightly intuits that when Ag wants to film him for an art project, he’s probably just looking for a quick lay. (And his rate remains the same, regardless.) The $220 an hour price quote from the episode title is so pricey that Ag decides not to mention it to his boyfriend when they meet up later.

Also, Agustin's sweatshirt?!? Anyone who wears that sweatshirt needs therapy.

Mustache

Dom is in a different show from everyone else this week: While the young ones get drunk and play tourist at Folsom, Looking's elder statesman is focused on turning his steam-room encounter with Lynn into a business venture. The flattered florist is initially under the impression that their lunch is a date, but he is quickly disabused of that notion. Dom just wants to know how to make his Peruvian chicken dreams into reality.

Honestly, of the three leads Dom is ahead of the pack: Everyone else is busy with inappropriate affections , and here’s this grown man taking entrepreneurial action. It’s the first time in four episodes that a story arc has involved absolutely no sex. I’m sad that it took a month for someone not to think with his penis, but I’m glad it finally happened.