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This Gay Guy Gets Real About Life—And Sex—After Prostate Cancer

"The way I'd always had sex was taken away from me."

About one man in seven will be diagnosed with prostate cancer during his lifetime, making it the most common cancer affecting males today. And while early treatment can help destroy the disease, the resulting side effects can often be the most difficult part of the journey.

That was the case for a British man named Martin, who was forced to undergo a radical prostatectomy, radiotherapy and chemical castration after receiving his cancer diagnosis.

Speaking in a video for the charity Prostate Cancer UK, Martin explained that the hormone therapy was lowering his libido and causing erectile dysfunction, something that greatly concerned the sexually active 53-year-old.

"Being a gay bloke, sex to me is, and was, quite important," he shares in the video. "If I met somebody and I wanted sex with them, I’d know they were interested in me because they’d have an erection, and the questions that came from that were: 'Well, you’re not interested?' and it’s like, 'No, no, no, I am interested, but nothing’s going on.'"

While Martin was at first discouraged by what was happening to his sexuality, he eventually learned all new ways to become intimate with another man.

"What I found was actually there are other people out there, other gay men, who actually want sensuality and not just sex," he revealed. "And by pushing through and exploring other possibilities with my sex life, with the lack of libido, and being determined to actually still have a sex life, I actually discovered I could really enjoy something I hadn’t enjoyed before, and that was sensuality."

Now 63, Martin told Gay Star News that he's in a nine-month relationship and has turned his focus toward helping others who are finding it difficult to talk about the intimate details of men's health.

Citing examples of people not wanting to talk about testicular, penile, prostate or anal cancer, he launched Out With Prostate Cancer, a UK-based support group for LGBT people dealing with the disease.

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