Sam Smith “Scared Sh*tless” After Embracing They/Them Pronouns

"I hope you can see me like I see myself now."

Sam Smith, who has previously come out as nonbinary and genderqueer, announced Friday on social media that they now prefer to be addressed with gender-neutral pronouns.

“Today is a good day so here goes,” the 27-year-old “How Do You Sleep?” singer tweeted. “I’ve decided I am changing my pronouns to THEY/THEM… after a lifetime of being at war with my gender I’ve decided to embrace myself for who I am, inside and out…”

“I’m so excited and privileged to be surrounded by people that support me in this decision but I’ve been very nervous about announcing this because I care too much about what people think but fuck it!” they continued. “I understand there will be many mistakes and mis gendering but all I ask is you please please try. I hope you can see me like I see myself now. Thank you.”

“P.s. I am at no stage just yet to eloquently speak at length about what it means to be non binary but I can’t wait for the day that I am. So for now I just want to be VISIBLE and open. If you have questions and are wondering what this all means I’ll try my best to explain…”

“Love you all,” Smith concluded. “I’m scared shitless, but feeling super free right now. Be kind.”

The British singer-songwriter opened up about embracing their genderqueer identity in British GQ’s June 2019 “GQ Heroes” issue.

“Ever since I was a little boy, ever since I was a little human, I didn’t feel comfortable being a man really,” Smith said in the cover interview. “I never really did.”

“Some days I’ve got my manly side and some days I’ve got my womanly side, but it’s when I’m in the middle of that switch I get really, really depressed and sad,” they explained. “Because I don’t know who I am or where I am or what I’m doing and I feel very misunderstood by myself. I realized that’s because I don’t fit into either.”

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“I was with my mum last night and she said something so beautiful. ’I’m so relieved that you and me and your whole family have a way to explain this, because it’s also been eating me up your whole life.’ Because my mum could see it and that it was a torture going on in my mind.”

“But I’m also very scared, because I’ve lived my life as a minority and now it makes me scared because I’m trying to explain it to people around me and they don’t understand,” the four-time Grammy winner added. “It feels like a new conversation, but I’m now learning it isn’t a new conversation and it’s been around for so long.”

Smith told British GQ that they were still using he/him pronouns at the time. “I’m also asking a few people close to me to say they and them,” they clarified. “I only learned a few weeks ago that you can have both.”

“If anyone in a situation can help kids out there it’s really important to do that and speak about it. I want to speak about my learning experience and what I’m figuring out in case that helps in some way. It helps me as well. Talking about it helps.”

Smith publicly revealed their nonbinary identity in March on the debut episode of Jameela Jamil’s Instagram-based show I Weigh Interviews. “When I saw the word nonbinary/genderqueer and I read into it and I heard these people speaking, I was like, ’Fuck, that is me,'” they said. “I am not male or female. I think I float somewhere in between—it’s all on the spectrum.”

They first opened up about their gender identity in an October 2017 interview with The Sunday Times, replying “No” when asked if they felt like a cisgender man. “I don’t know what the title would be, but I feel just as much woman as I am man,” they elaborated.

“I think recently with coming to terms with my sexuality even more than I ever have and my gender more than I have, I think I felt this freedom to start moving in a way that’s just more confident,” Smith said last month in a behind-the-scenes video for “How Do You Sleep?” “There’s a vivacious woman inside my body that is being set free.”

“Dancing the way I am, and expressing myself, and being femme, and wearing heels on set, which I did, and all this stuff, it’s scary,” they continued. “But I love being scared. I’d rather be scared than feeling safe and comfortable, because safe and comfortable has driven me crazy.”

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