Why Sam Smith’s Mum Is “Relieved” He Came Out as Non-Binary

"Some days I've got my manly side and some days I've got my womanly side."

Sam Smith opens up about embracing his genderqueer identity in British GQ’s June 2019 “GQ Heroes” issue.

“Ever since I was a little boy, ever since I was a little human, I didn’t feel comfortable being a man really,” says Smith, 26, in the cover interview. “I never really did.”

“Some days I’ve got my manly side and some days I’ve got my womanly side, but it’s when I’m in the middle of that switch I get really, really depressed and sad,” explains the “Dancing With a Stranger” singer. “Because I don’t know who I am or where I am or what I’m doing and I feel very misunderstood by myself. I realized that’s because I don’t fit into either.”

“I was with my mum last night and she said something so beautiful. ’I’m so relieved that you and me and your whole family have a way to explain this, because it’s also been eating me up your whole life.’ Because my mum could see it and that it was a torture going on in my mind.”

“But I’m also very scared, because I’ve lived my life as a minority and now it makes me scared because I’m trying to explain it to people around me and they don’t understand,” the four-time Grammy winner continues. “It feels like a new conversation, but I’m now learning it isn’t a new conversation and it’s been around for so long.”

Smith says he’s currently using he/him pronouns. “I’m also asking a few people close to me to say they and them,” he adds. “I only learned a few weeks ago that you can have both.”

“If anyone in a situation can help kids out there it’s really important to do that and speak about it. I want to speak about my learning experience and what I’m figuring out in case that helps in some way. It helps me as well. Talking about it helps.”

Smith also spoke to British GQ about his romantic life. “When it comes to work I feel like a 40-year-old man—my responsibilities, where I live, it’s nuts,” he says. “But in terms of my romantic life I feel very young, very inexperienced. It’s really hard. I think that’s the same for all queer people.”

Smith revealed his non-binary identity in March on the debut episode of Jameela Jamil’s Instagram-based show I Weigh Interviews. “When I saw the word non-binary/genderqueer and I read into it and I heard these people speaking, I was like, ’Fuck, that is me,'” he said. “I am not male or female. I think I float somewhere in between—it’s all on the spectrum.”

He first opened up about his gender identity in an October 2017 interview with The Sunday Times, replying “No” when asked if he feels like a cisgender man. “I don’t know what the title would be, but I feel just as much woman as I am man,” he elaborated.

Smith also discussed his love of doing drag and how he wore “full makeup” at school: “There was one moment in my life when I didn’t own a piece of male clothing, really.”

But no, Adele is not Sam Smith in drag.

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