The Year in Gay Quotes (2013 Edition)

Over the past year, just about everybody had something to say about being gay. From Supreme Court Justices to the Pope, politicians, actors, singers, talk show personalities and more – there was no lack of participation in the national dialog about marriage equality, religious freedom, coming out, hot bodies and gay sex. Here’s a selection of the most memorable things people had to say about being gay this year.

Pope Francis Gay QuoteAll Photos: Getty/quote source


“You know what they do in San Francisco? Some in the gay community there, they want to get people. So if they got the stuff they’ll have a ring, you shake hands and the ring’s got a little thing where you cut your finger. Really. It’s that kind of vicious stuff, which would be the equivalent of murder.” (source)

— Pat Robertson, religious loon telling how he thinks HIV is spread


Jodie Foster

“I hope you guys weren’t hoping this would be a big coming out speech tonight, because I already did my coming out about a thousand years ago, back in the stone age. In those very quaint days when a fragile young girl would open up to trusted friends and family, co-workers, and then gradually, proudly to everyone who knew her, to everyone she actually met. But now apparently, I’m told that every celebrity is expected to honor the details of their private life with a press conference, a fragrance, and a prime time reality show … I would have to make out with Marion Cotillard, I would have to spank Daniel Craig’s bottom, you know, just to stay on the air. It’s not bad work if you can get it though.” (source)

— Jodie Foster, accepting Cecil B. DeMille Lifetime Achievement Award at the Golden Globes


“What I was not aware of until years later was [Liberace’s] lifestyle … Yeah right. Um … oh well!” (source)

— Elton John, saluting Liberace at the 2013 Emmy Awards


Michael Douglas Emmy quote


“Once both gay marriage and marijuana are finally legal, those of you against them are not invited to the really fun parties I’m gonna throw.” (source)

— Zach Braff, actor/director


Tom Daley quote


“I never thought this show would go anywhere. I only wanted to be on it for one reason, and that was to bring some awareness about homophobia in the Middle Eastern community. I identify as the most un-Muslim, semi-Jewish, stunningly beautiful gay Persian man living in Los Angeles.” (source)

— Shahs of Sunset castmate Reza Farahan


Bishop Desmond Tutu gay quote(source)

“Racism, as it exists within the gay community, is one of the most disheartening things. When I first came out, I thought, ‘Oh my God, I am done with hardship – everyone in the community is so accepting!’ It was such a naïve, uninformed view.” (source)

— Dylan Marron, castmember of Whatever This Is web series


 The New Normal
The New Normal – NBC

“On The New Normal the thing I was probably more proud of than anything else is that we were just trying to put positive energy out there in the world, and we got to do it for one season and that’s more than most.” (source)

— Justin Bartha, The New Normal co-star


“People who think I’m gay, some part of me thinks it’s wonderful. Because I want to challenge people on their homophobia. I love seeing on Twitter when someone says I’m gay, and I say, ‘So what does it matter if I am? So be it. I hope you are not voting for me because you are making the presumption that I’m straight.’” (source)

— Cory Booker, winning candidate for US Senate in New Jersey


Hillary Clinton

“LGBT Americans are our colleagues, our teachers, our soldiers, our friends, our loved ones, and they are full and equal citizens and deserve the rights of citizenship. That includes marriage. I support it personally, and as a matter of policy and law.” (source)

— Hillary Clinton, in Human Rights Campaign video


“I have come to believe that if two people are prepared to make a lifetime commitment to love and care for each other in good times and in bad, the government shouldn’t deny them the opportunity to get married. That isn’t how I’ve always felt. As a congressman, and more recently as a senator, I opposed marriage for same-sex couples. Then something happened that led me to think through my position in a much deeper way.” (source)

— Republican Senator Rob Portman, whose son Will came out to him in 2011

 Supreme Court Gay
Supreme Court overturns DOMA

“Suppose a state said that, Because we think that the focus of marriage really should be on procreation, we are not going to give marriage licenses anymore to any couple where both people are over the age of 55. Would that be constitutional?” (source)

— Supreme Court Associate Justice Elena Kagan

“Outside of the marriage context, can you think of any other rational basis, reason, for a state using sexual orientation as a factor in denying homosexuals benefits or imposing burdens on them? Is there any other rational decision-making that the government could make? Denying them a job, not granting them benefits of some sort, any other decision?” (source)

— Supreme Court Associate Justice Sonia Sotomayor

“You want us to step in and render a decision based on an assessment of the effects of this institution which is newer than cellphones or the Internet? I mean we — we are not — we do not have the ability to see the future.” (source)

— Supreme Court Associate Justice Samuel Alito

“The federal statute is invalid, for no legitimate purpose overcomes the purpose and effect to disparage and injure those whom the state, by its marriage laws, sought to protect in personhood and dignity. (source)

— Supreme Court Justice Anthony Kennedy’s majority opinion overturning the Defense of Marriage Act




“The laws of our land are catching up to the fundamental truth that millions of Americans hold in our hearts: when all Americans are treated as equal, no matter who they are or whom they love, we are all more free.” (source)

— President Barack Obama


“Marriage was created by the hand of God. No man, not even a Supreme Court, can undo what a holy God has instituted.” (source)

— Michele Bachman, retiring member of Congress


“After years of struggle, the U.S. Supreme Court today has made same-sex marriage a reality in California … I have directed the California Department of Public Health to advise the state’s counties that they must begin issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples in California …” (source)

— California Governor Jerry Brown


“There are several states where you can get married. But I think I can say without fear of contradiction, ‘Paradise awaits.’ We’ll be happy to welcome you. And if you do get married in another state, think about honeymooning in Hawaii.” (source)

— Hawaii Governor Neil Abercrombie, after signing the marriage equality bill into law


“People criticize the timing, but it is never the wrong time to do the right thing.” (source)

— Hawaii State Representative Chris Lee, sponsor of the marriage equality bill


“Although the governor strongly disagrees with the court substituting its judgment for the constitutional process of the elected branches or a vote of the people, the court has now spoken clearly as to their view of the New Jersey Constitution, and, therefore, same-sex marriage is the law.” (source)

— New Jersey Governor Chris Christie statement


“Illinois does not have a situation where individuals are discriminated against in any way when it comes to love and marriage.” (source)

— Pat Quinn, Illinois Governor, signing marriage equality bill making Illinois the 16th state to legalize gay marriage


“The compelling argument is on the side of homosexuals. We’re Americans. We just want to be treated like everybody else. That is a compelling argument. And to deny that, you’ve got to have a very strong argument on the other side. And the other side hasn’t been able to do anything but thump the Bible … I support civil unions, I always have. All right, the gay marriage thing, I don’t feel that strongly about it one way or the other.” (source)

— Bill O’Reilly, Fox TV commentator

 Liz and Mary Cheney
Liz Cheney (l) and Mary Cheney

“(Same sex marriage) must be decided by the states, and by the people in the states, not by judges and not even by legislators, but by the people themselves.”

— Liz Cheney, running for US Senate in Wyoming

“For the record, I love my sister. But she is dead wrong on the marriage issue.”

— Mary Cheney, Liz Cheney’s sister

“I love Mary very much. I love her family very much. This is just an issue in which we disagree.” (quote source)

— Liz Cheney, running for US Senate in Wyoming (Liz’s sister Mary is in a same sex marriage)

“Liz has been a guest in our home, has spent time and shared holidays with our children, and when Mary and I got married in 2012 – she didn’t hesitate to tell us how happy she was for us. To have her now say she doesn’t support our right to marry is offensive to say the least. I can’t help but wonder how Liz would feel if as she moved from state to state, she discovered that her family was protected in one but not the other. I always thought freedom meant freedom for everyone.” (quote source)

— Heather Poe, Mary Cheney’s spouse

“This is an issue we have dealt with privately for many years, and we are pained to see it become public. Since it has, one thing should be clear. Liz has always believed in the traditional definition of marriage. She has also always treated her sister and her sister’s family with love and respect, exactly as she should have done. Compassion is called for, even when there is disagreement about such a fundamental matter and Liz’s many kindnesses shouldn’t be used to distort her position.” (quotes source)

— Statement from Dick and Lynne Cheney






“I realized I could only truly enjoy my life once I was honest. Honesty is a bitch, but makes life so simple and clear. My secret is gone, I am a free man, I can move on and live my life as my creator intended.” (source)

— Robbie Rogers, soccer player


“I found it hugely insulting that people believed I’d go so far out of my way — living with Playmates, vacationing with actresses, showing up at nightclubs — to act out a lifestyle that would amount to a charade. If I was gay, I’d be gay all the way.” (source)

— Mike Piazza, retired major league baseball player


Jay (at the courthouse): Look at that line. Probably everybody getting their gay marriage license.
Manny: I think it’s just called a marriage license.

— Modern Family, “Suddenly Last Summer” 5th season premiere


“(Gay sex scenes are) within the realm of our other Teen Wolf sex scenes. We can’t show too much on our network and our time slot, but I think we push the envelope. We haven’t hit Spartacus levels, but you’ll see. I’ll just say that one of the Standards and Practices notes is ‘no thrusting.’ (source)

Teen Wolf creator Jeff Davis


Glee’s Unique (Alex Newell)

Will: As long as you keep being yourself, your life is probably going to be a constant string of ’don’t belongs’.
Unique: I know. I should probably start getting used to it.
Will: No, no. You should never get used to it. All great changes come from people who refused to get used to what was accepted but wasn’t right. Slavery, gay rights, New Coke.

Glee, Season 5, Episode 5, “The End of Twerking”


Josh Hutcherson
Josh Hutcherson

“I would probably list myself as mostly straight. I’ve met guys all the time that I’m like, Damn, that’s a good-looking guy, you know? I’ve never been, like, Oh, I want to kiss that guy. I really love women. But I think defining yourself as 100% anything is kind of near-sighted and close-minded.” (source)

— Josh Hutcherson, actor


“I would never do (a commercial) with a homosexual family, not for lack of respect but because we don’t agree with them. Ours is a classic family where the woman plays a fundamental role.” (source)

— Guido Barilla, chairman of the world’s leading pasta manufacturer



“We ask that (other countries) do not interfere in our regulation.” (source)

— Russian President Vladimir Putin, sining into a law a bill punishing people for “homosexual propaganda”

“You can’t support gays and lesbians in one country, then stay silent on the issues in the places where gays and lesbians need vocal, powerful allies the most.” (source)

— Andre Banks, activist supporting boycott of Sochi Olympic Games

“We stand with Russia’s LGBT community and their allies. We are committed to doing as much as we possibly can to support their efforts to repeal this heinous law.” (source)

— Chad Griffin, Human Rights Campaign Chairman

 “With Russia about to hold the Winter Games in Sochi, the country is open to pressure. American and world leaders must speak out against Mr. Putin’s attacks and the violence they foster. The Olympic Committee must demand the retraction of these laws under threat of boycott.” (source)

— Harvey Fierstein

“While the behavior of the Russian government, Putin and Putin punks are abhorrent, nothing will be changed by boycotting the Sochi Winter Games. In fact, those who are appalled by the treatment of LGBT Russian citizens will lose an incredible opportunity for the world to show their disgust.” (source)

— David Mixner, activist

“I’ve never thought of the Olympics as a political statement. I really think a boycott … is in the wrong as far as the athletes are concerned.” (source)

— Johnny Weir, three-time US National figure skating champion

“I support the boycott because I do not think at this stage there is any other way to make our authorities see and understand because they keep ignoring the rights of their citizens … and at this stage there is no other way to affect change, because the authorities have taken hostage of the media, so perhaps this boycott can be a symbol of criticism being voiced.” (source)

— Ekaterina Samutsevich, one of three members of the Pussy Riot feminist collective imprisoned in Russia

“There’s a better way to speak out against President Putin and call out his bigotry for exactly what it is: speaking up for equal rights and educating people around the world about the persistence of homophobia. Rather than boycott, I, along with several amazing organizations including Athlete Ally and All Out, plan to use the Sochi Games as a teachable moment for the world.” (source)

— Greg Louganis, Olympic legend

“Just a threat of a boycott has got the Russians spinning.” (source)

— Keith Olbermann, ESPN Sports commentator

“I am gay. I am a Jew. My mother lost over a dozen of her family to Hitler’s anti-Semitism. Every time in Russia (and it is constantly) a gay teenager is forced into suicide, a lesbian ‘correctively’ raped, gay men and women beaten to death by neo-Nazi thugs while the Russian police stand idly by, the world is diminished and I for one, weep anew at seeing history repeat itself.” (source)

— Steven Fry, actor


Wentworth Miller

“Thank you for your kind invitation. However, as a gay man, I must decline. I am deeply troubled by the current attitude toward and treatment of gay men and women by the Russian government. The situation is in no way acceptable, and I cannot in good conscience participate in a celebratory occasion hosted by a country where people like myself are being systematically denied their basic right to live and love openly.” (source)

— Wentworth Miller, actor


“For decades, this great leader, often at Dr. King’s side, was denied his rightful place in history because he was openly gay. No medal can change that, but today, we honor Bayard Rustin’s memory by taking our place in his march towards true equality, no matter who we are or who we love.” (source)

— President Barack Obama, presenting American Media of Freedom posthumously to Bayard Rustin


“I think, at the end of the day, the most special thing is when a mother or a gay person comes up to you and just thanks you and calls you a hero. They say I’m a hero, but I’m just a concerned citizen and I’m just doing the right thing.” (source)

— Brendon Ayanbadejo, football player


Macklemore same love VMA award
Macklemore and Lewis (with Mary Lambert) accept VMA award for “Same Love”

“This moon man right here stands for a lot more. This is the most important record out of all of them. Gay rights are human rights, there is no separation.” (source)

— Macklemore, pop artist, accepting MTV Video Music Award


“Gay guys like a certain kind of woman. They like a flamboyant woman that’s broken. They like a balls-to-the-wall woman, motherly but not; sexual but not. Gay guys are like this: they either love you or they don’t even know you’re on the planet. Once you have them, you have them.” (source)

— Cher, fabulous icon


“He (son Jason) doesn’t see me as a (gay) icon, he sees me as his mother who touches his hair too much. No, I love being an icon to anybody. Equal rights, you know?” (source)

— Barbra Streisand, fabulous icon


Britney Spears

“A lot of my hair stylists and my beauty team that I work with are gay so I hang out with gays a lot and I just think they’re adorable and hilarious.” (source)

— Britney Spears, pop artist


“So many gay jokes tonight about (James) Franco. Apparently if you’re clean, well dressed and mildly cultured, you’re super gay now. Is that why the rest of you guys are so aggressively fat and dirty? You think if you read one book and take a shower, dicks are going to just fly into your face.” (source)

— Aziz Ansari, nailing it at the Comedy Central roast of James Franco


“One day. my kids are gonna be like, ‘What do you mean, gay people couldn’t get married?’ Just like most of my friends are black, and I find it hard to believe that my great-grandmother and even my grandmother couldn’t hang out with black kids when they were young.” (quote source)

— Miley Cyrus, pop music artist


“O say does that star-spangled flag of pride yet wave? O’er the land of the free, and the home for the gay!” (source)

— Lady Gaga, altering the Star Spangled Banner to kick off NYC Gay Pride


“Everything is blurred on what’s right and what’s wrong … Sin becomes fine. Start with homosexual behavior and just morph out from there. Bestiality, sleeping around with this woman and that woman and that woman and those men. Don’t be deceived. Neither the adulterers, the idolaters, the male prostitutes, the homosexual offenders, the greedy, the drunkards, the slanderers, the swindlers—they won’t inherit the kingdom of God.” (source)

— Phil Robertson of Duck Dynasty fame


Dan Savage

“I tell this story in the book of being at this park in Seattle many years ago, where a limo pulls up and a bride and a groom tumble out to get their portraits at this very famous park with a beautiful view of downtown Seattle. And as they’re walking back to the limo everyone starts to applaud, and rightly so. Everyone takes delight when two people find each other and make that commitment. I was standing there clapping next to these two older gentlemen with two big dogs. It was clear that they were gay and I was gay. And as they get into their car, the one closest to me looks at me and says, `We are always happy for them. Would it kill them to be happy for us?’ We’ve reached that tipping point, where they are happy for us. Now you see straight people looking at gay people and recognizing something about themselves in us.” (source)

— Dan Savage, sex advice columnist


What were your favorite LGBT quotes for the year?