Heroes actor Thomas Dekker has come out publicly as gay in a post on social media, where he blames “a prominent gay man” for outing him.
“My sexual orientation once again came into question this week when a prominent gay man used an awards acceptance speech to ‘out’ me,” Dekker, who also appeared in Terminator: The Sarah Connor Chronicles, wrote on Instagram.
“While he did not mention me by name, the explicit details of his reference made it easy for the public and media to connect the dots.”
My sexual orientation once again came into question this week when a prominent gay man used an awards acceptance speech to "out" me. While he did not mention me by name, the explicit details of his reference made it easy for the public and media to connect the dots. While it is an odd situation, I thank him because it presents a prime opportunity for me to publicly say that I am indeed a man who proudly loves other men. In fact, this April, I married my husband and I could not be happier. I have never lied to the press about the fluidity of my sexuality but this man claiming that I came out is not true. Because I have not "officially" until this moment. I simply refuse to be robbed of the glorious joy that belongs to me. To say the words myself. "I'm gay". Those words are a badge of honor that no one can steal. Sexuality and who you love is a deeply personal and complicated thing. For some of us, it takes time to cultivate, discover and conclude. It is not something anyone should ever be ashamed of and certainly not something anyone should be rushed into. I agree with many who believe it is an important responsibility for LGBTQ persons with a platform to come out. It has the power to change minds, challenge beliefs and make others feel understood and supported. It can strengthen the progression of our community and help disarm those who discriminate against us. It is a brave, powerful and important thing to do but it is also a deeply personal decision. One that should only be made when you are ready. If we are to stand strong in the gay community, our mission should be support, not exclusion; love, not shame. I choose not to look back on the past with a regretful heart but rather focus on the future with a hopeful one. A future where myself and all others can feel free to express their true selves with honor and dignity. I embrace you, any of you, with open arms, kindness, faith and patience. For all of you who have supported me, before and now, I thank you from the bottom of my fledgling heart. Be proud of who you are. No matter how long it takes.
He didn’t mention him by name, but its clear Dekker was referring to Bryan Fuller, who used his acceptance speech at Outfest last weekend to discuss the difficulties he’s had in introducing LGBT characters on TV.
“I had a brief stint on Heroes, where the gay character was ‘hetwashed’ after the actor’s management threatened to pull him from the show if he—the character, not the actor— were gay.”
At the time, it was widely reported the character in question was Dekker’s character, Zach, and that Dekker’s management was worried it would affect his casting as young John Connor on the Terminator TV series.
Dekker denied the charge at the time, writing in 2007, “I have played a gay character three times before in my career, one when I was 12 (which is on YouTube), one when I was 15, and another when I was 17. I, nor my management, have ever had any kind of problem with creating a gay character.” He maintained the situation was “something far more complicated” than being afraid to play a gay character. (Since then, Dekker has also played gay in Gregg Araki’s Kaboom and the HBO biopic Cinema Verite.)
But in a 2011 Out interview the actor maintained he was heterosexual.
“I’ve only really had relationships with women, but I’m certainly not closed to it. If there are possibilities of being able to do anything in life, why would you say you would never take any up?”
Dekker also revealed in his latest Instagram that he’s married.
“While it is an odd situation, I thank him because it presents a prime opportunity for me to publicly say that I am indeed a man who proudly loves other men. In fact, this April, I married my husband and I could not be happier.”