The lead singer of popular Christian rock band Everyday Sunday has come out as gay in an interview with the Ohio-based entertainment magazine (614), and published an open letter to fans explaining his decision to live openly and how it relates to his faith.
“To make an extremely long story short, I have come to be able to admit to myself, and to my family, that I am gay,” 35-year-old Trey Pearson wrote.
Pearson, who was married to a woman he had two children with, said he concealed his sexuality for most of his life because he was taught as a child that it was a “matter of choice.”
“I never wanted to be gay,” he wrote. “I was scared of what God would think and what all of these people I loved would think about me; so it was never an option for me.”
Trying not to be gay, has only led to a desire for intimacy in friendships which pushed friends away, and it has resulted in a marriage where I couldn’t love or satisfy my wife in a way that she needed. Still, I tried to convince myself that this was what God wanted and that this would work. I thought all of those other feelings would stay away if I could just do this right.
When Lauren and I got married, I committed to loving her to the best of my ability, and I had the full intention of spending the rest of my life with her. Despite our best efforts, however, I have come to accept that there is nothing that is going to change who I am.
— Everyday Sunday (@treypearson) May 2, 2016
Strangely enough, Pearson says coming to terms with his sexuality hasn’t affected his Christian faith, which he blames for his lifetime of living in the closet.
“I think I needed to be able to affirm other gay people before I could ever accept it for myself,” he wrote. “Likewise, I couldn’t expect others to accept me how I am until I could come to terms with it first.”
“If this honesty with myself about who I am, and who I was made by God to be, doesn’t constitute as the peace that passes all understanding, then I don’t know what does. It is like this weight I have been carrying my whole life has been lifted from me, and I have never felt such freedom.”
You can check out Trey’s full letter at (614).